tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post7766405172250431930..comments2023-10-17T03:21:37.194-05:00Comments on Life of L: My DadLaura Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07916626845812229646noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-69761917013662758632010-02-25T19:37:48.181-06:002010-02-25T19:37:48.181-06:00I'm glad your dad is getting the VA benefits
...I'm glad your dad is getting the VA benefits<br /><br /><a href="http://www.workfromhomeindia.biz" rel="nofollow"> Work From Home </a>prashanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04583385332262124749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-26306093055914956442010-01-30T14:16:02.259-06:002010-01-30T14:16:02.259-06:00Our lives have so many things in common. I was th...Our lives have so many things in common. I was thinking of what I worried about three weeks ago and it all seems so trivial. My Dad needs total care now too. I never wanted him to go in a nursing home, my biggest fear, but we don't have anyone to help my mother. He will be there at least 20 days and then we will re-assess. I am looking at options up here near me so Mom can be close to family if that is what she decides. I am with you in this. We can do it. I did not think I could get through all I am going through but today I know I can. No matter what. My weight is down, too but very squishy. I ignore it right now because I can't do as much about it yet. But we will be okay, and our lives will have great joys along with the sorrows. Take care of your self as best you can and know that you are never alone.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400492104098347769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-8576069690487434922010-01-28T17:57:42.940-06:002010-01-28T17:57:42.940-06:00So sorry to read about your dad. You are in my th...So sorry to read about your dad. You are in my thoughts and prayers. You are doing a good thing, stay strong.Jilliganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761765536631871343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-50429748678235701242010-01-28T15:19:27.335-06:002010-01-28T15:19:27.335-06:00it is one thing to take care of him - it is anothe...it is one thing to take care of him - it is another to allow everyone else to be 'taken down with him'. <br /><br />If he has to go to the VA to live, then that is what he has to do. <br /><br />you can't have your sister (or one of the rest of you) ruin her back or neck by doing too much. and you can't have everyone else's families suffer too much. At some point there is a line in the sand. <br /><br />I think of you every day and hope that things hold steady. I realize he is in decline, but I hope that all the rest of you can hold your own during this process.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-53427042561808172892010-01-28T09:10:24.067-06:002010-01-28T09:10:24.067-06:00Gosh Laura this just makes me want to cry. This - ...Gosh Laura this just makes me want to cry. This - "I think we are all in mourning now, before he's even gone" just broke my heart because I know that feeling. My grandma had alzheimers and for years we were just waiting. I mourned for her for a long time before she finally passed. It didn't make the actual passing any easier though. <br /><br />So glad the VA stuff finally went through! That is such a blessing! <br /><br />I have prayed and will continue to pray for you and your whole family. Take care chica. ((((hugs))))Jill A https://www.blogger.com/profile/18314858719315620032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-82106156385966592322010-01-28T08:33:27.749-06:002010-01-28T08:33:27.749-06:00Laura, so glad to hear from you.
Basically, in my...Laura, so glad to hear from you.<br /><br />Basically, in my limited experience, NO ONE wants to lose their 'independence.' They resist it to the end. <br /><br />Its almost funny now, but my dad's wife passively resisted being moved to an 'independent' living facility--we picked out a beautiful 2 bedroom apartment. She just would not take part and ignored what was happening. We were all there for a week, packing and moving stuff, and when the hour came to move, we said, 'okay, let's get in the car. Its time to move.' And she said, 'I CAN"T GO.' And of course, she had to go. Later, before she died, she actually thanked me profusely for everything I had done.<br /><br />My dad was also VERY resistive to any outside help, all along the way (from housekeeping, to more extensive help.) But now he has accepted it, and loves it.<br /><br />I guess I am telling you all this, because it really seems like your dad soon will need more help than your family can give to him. And sometimes in life, we do not get to choose what we want. I really had to take the 'tough guy' stance a few times in the process with my dad and his wife.<br /><br />I think the very best thing is when families can take care of their loved ones. But I have seen them give so much that it wreaked havoc on their lives for years after the loved one was gone. I hope you all can gauge how much of yourselves you can safely give up.<br /><br />I will keep you in my prayers.debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967505760808535408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-28274616169625949482010-01-28T08:18:03.265-06:002010-01-28T08:18:03.265-06:00I'm so sorry you are all going through this. ...I'm so sorry you are all going through this. One suggestion. Call hospice. At least talk to them about your Dad's situation. We waited until much too late with my mom, but they are amazing and make so many things go better. They also pay for many of the things that we thought weren't covered.<br />TishTishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039903741028922963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-30643774691611940332010-01-27T20:12:47.086-06:002010-01-27T20:12:47.086-06:00Thanks for posting to let us know how you're d...Thanks for posting to let us know how you're doing, Laura. Love and prayers to you and your family.LMIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16194634431878605447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-29228108333197548952010-01-27T20:04:18.586-06:002010-01-27T20:04:18.586-06:00Sending prayers your way. I can't even imagin...Sending prayers your way. I can't even imagine handling what you are going through. I'm glad your dad has such a wonderful support system and that the VA is coming through for you all.<br /><br />MCM MamaErikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03659092225880096820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-6682525895395868992010-01-27T19:05:48.107-06:002010-01-27T19:05:48.107-06:00Oh man, sorry Laura about how quickly the ALS is t...Oh man, sorry Laura about how quickly the ALS is taking its toll on your dad.<br /><br />I wonder if his resistance to not have anyone other than his family help him is so he can spend more time with his loved ones and might fear once outside help comes in, he will not get to see his daughters as often. <br /><br />Hang in there, I'm glad your dad is getting the VA benefits (I saw on a news program a few years ago that some of the best run hospitals are the updated VA hospitals)<br /><br />I'll keep checking back in to see how you and your family are doing.<br /><br />Prayers to you all.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10440256937299891501noreply@blogger.com