tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post6370327066254822033..comments2023-10-17T03:21:37.194-05:00Comments on Life of L: 153.0 - Hold the ShameLaura Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07916626845812229646noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-23083265656687209142008-08-17T17:20:00.000-05:002008-08-17T17:20:00.000-05:00Great posts Laura and very interesting comments. ...Great posts Laura and very interesting comments. Holding the shame is a great NSV and I applaud how far you have come on this journey. <BR/><BR/>You are such an inspiration to all of us.Grumpy Chairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17719618593765537673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-57617078698877848532008-08-17T08:46:00.000-05:002008-08-17T08:46:00.000-05:00You have such a great attitude! You have come a l...You have such a great attitude! You have come a long way and need to be proud of your accomplishments.<BR/><BR/>I still have issues eating in front of people.Carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00967080850862781446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-68959696548275764622008-08-16T13:14:00.000-05:002008-08-16T13:14:00.000-05:00This is so timely for me (see my post from today)!...This is so timely for me (see my post from today)! A woman who was eating with us (and is much heavier than me) ordered a big fatty steak. She didn't eat all of it and I actually FELT her shame. It was sad and it brought up memories for me. I still feel that if you REALLY want it, you order it and you should eat it and not feel bad. It's all about taking responsibility for our choices. But our culture has really done a number on us. And I have to go to the gym so I'm going to have to leave it there...but this (and thanks to Cindy too for bringing it up) really brought up stuff for me...this is why our community is SO great...others remind us of stuff WE have to work through! :-)<BR/><BR/>Have a great weekend!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07856254838049366414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-5709667313046096212008-08-16T05:16:00.000-05:002008-08-16T05:16:00.000-05:00AMEN on the shamethe SHOULDS the MUSTS.and Im gonn...AMEN on the shame<BR/>the SHOULDS <BR/>the MUSTS.<BR/><BR/>and Im gonna rewrite this:<BR/>it's been semi-okay.<BR/><BR/>as the fact that youve been MAINTAINING (so hard) under 152?<BR/><BR/>makes it GREAT but Im striving for 145.<BR/><BR/>no semi :)<BR/><BR/>M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-55512643136907591262008-08-15T17:54:00.000-05:002008-08-15T17:54:00.000-05:00I can relate a lot ot this post because I used to ...I can relate a lot ot this post because I used to hate eating in public and felt taht people looked at my choices and thought, you are too fat to eat that, you should be eating a salad! or I was embarrassed at the amount of what I was eating,etc. probably from years of my mom scrutinizing my food choices. it is SO nice now to feel that I am not being judged. its kind of sad that it takes losing weight to feel that way, that its OK to eat like a pig if I am thin. but I usually choose not to because it is still work to stay this weight and doesnt come 2nd nature yet. I am so glad you are feeling great and dont feel ashamed!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02938217552213908906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-7419965687689270502008-08-15T14:01:00.000-05:002008-08-15T14:01:00.000-05:00PS - I just posted a picture of the 5 pound fat vs...PS - I just posted a picture of the 5 pound fat vs 5 pound muscle model on my blog. It is rather inspiring...Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400492104098347769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-7683153570743197862008-08-15T13:44:00.000-05:002008-08-15T13:44:00.000-05:00I like that you consider yourself normal weight ev...I like that you consider yourself normal weight even when you are a few pounds over the BMI. So do I. I hit my "normal BMI" at 149, and then I fluctuated up but I still felt "normal" - and I also noticed that at your weight you can wear into a siz 6. So can I (not all 6's that's for sure but I have several in the closet now & still can't believe they fit me). I assume one reason for this is muscle from exercise. It enables you to be a smaller size at a higher weight. Muscle weighs more than fat, but takes up far less space. So, the BMI is a nice tool, but it is not the be all, end all measurement. And the reason you can have those decadent meals and deviations is because you get back on track right away or real soon, and, again, all the exercise you get and your muscle. I have a co-worker who told me that she works out because she can eat more, and she said with no shame "I like to eat!" - She has always been in good shape. Anyway, I like the discussion about the shame surrounding eating. Thanks for elaborating on it!Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06400492104098347769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-32893985213849095792008-08-15T13:13:00.000-05:002008-08-15T13:13:00.000-05:00I totally get you on needing that fix alone. I dis...I totally get you on needing that fix alone. I disappear into my bedroom and by the time they find me, I'm fixed. <BR/><BR/>I never really had this shame eating in front of other people, because there was always someone who was right there shoveling it in with me, whether it was friends or family. The only time I can remember feeling weird was at an informal wedding where my skinny friend Rachel and I were serving the cake (there were 3 cakes actually), but we were gushing about how good the frosting was and I had this feeling that I shouldn't be talking about how much I love frosting. Like if everyone knew I loved frosting they would think "well quit eating it and you won't be such a fatty!"<BR/><BR/>I guess I did feel shame if my husband caught me pigging out. One time after I had just had my son, I had like, two desserts after dinner and the hubs asked me if I was ever going to get full. That was the first time I realized other people noticed how much I ate. I stopped eating desserts in front of him for a really long time. Now when I have something, if he says anything (which he rarely does anymore) I pretty much just flip him the bird and keep eating!! <BR/><BR/>I hadn't really thought about all this before. Very interesting.<BR/>Good post girl! =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-52481273225415491132008-08-15T12:44:00.000-05:002008-08-15T12:44:00.000-05:00I'm thrilled that you are one of the people wh...I'm thrilled that you are one of the people who sees yourself as normal and not worrying about those damn BMI charts! :-)<BR/><BR/>The shame/eating in public thing is so true. I know I've gone home and done things that I wouldn't do in public and it's all because I had look good in public. <BR/><BR/>You know, one reason you might be in the bathroom with your ice cream fix isn't necessariy out of shame, guilt, etc. but because you have some peace and quiet (relatively). I can't imgine any mom being able to eat ice cream by herself in front of children (gimmee, gimmee, gimee). Just a thought. As usual, you rock! And roll! <BR/><BR/>(PS I thought of you & DH today. There was an article about the real estate market here. One buyer was reduced to advertising a home as "Owned by DMB chef!" Yours for only $299,000 in the next county!) :-)Lori G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02167055316077502640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-4422463479251484772008-08-15T12:10:00.000-05:002008-08-15T12:10:00.000-05:00eating in front of people is multi part for most o...eating in front of people is multi part for most of us - first there is the "what are they thinking about what I am eating" that you mentioned - but there is also - the having to deal with other people over our food (like debating what we are or are not choosing to eat)- and I think that there is anxiety too. Frances mentioned that the feelings she gets (vibes) can impact what she eats and then how she feels about what she chose to eat. Complex stuff. Probably that thinking too much, never forgetting anything stuff kicking in. . .Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-40387709401676875592008-08-15T11:20:00.000-05:002008-08-15T11:20:00.000-05:00You definitely have the right attitude and I'm so ...You definitely have the right attitude and I'm so proud of you. :)Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10297117380345229689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-22987745932938324242008-08-15T09:56:00.000-05:002008-08-15T09:56:00.000-05:00Good job with the exercise and keeping your weight...Good job with the exercise and keeping your weight stable. I'm not thrilled with my weight, but happy to be able to stay within a range I set myself.<BR/><BR/>Yay for getting past the shame about eating. We all eat ice cream while hiding from our kids once in a while. LOL Major kudos to you for the mental work you are doing in addition to the physical work of losing the weight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com