tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post4631261061919548098..comments2023-10-17T03:21:37.194-05:00Comments on Life of L: Fancy GymLaura Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07916626845812229646noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-73819471771637964662011-04-21T23:07:23.829-05:002011-04-21T23:07:23.829-05:00I can't tell you how much more I understand ab...I can't tell you how much more I understand about myself by having teenage and young adult girls in house (13, 17, 20). as I watch and work with them, I learn things I didn't understand, wasn't taught. <br /><br />The question thing is a real issue for girls in dealing with men and also dealing with their elders.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-82130471152607989212011-04-21T23:04:54.805-05:002011-04-21T23:04:54.805-05:00As I read your post, I thought of the girls at my ...As I read your post, I thought of the girls at my house who have been struggling with how to deal with people bringing up subjects they do not want to talk about or asking questions that are none of the people's business. <br /><br />We have been talking about how easy it is to reinforce behaviors in people without meaning to. Like if you smile and talk at length about something (just to be polite), that something is the first thing that will pop in that person's head the next time they see you. <br /><br />I think compliments can be one of those things. they get in the habit of commenting on our weight loss or our body first thing, every time they see us. And that gets really old, really fast. <br /><br />At our house we have been talking about answering a question with a question. Or just changing the subject with a smile. <br /><br />I had one lady who got in the compliment habit with me and it was and is the only thing she says to me (this has been going on for 6 years now). It is something I wish I had nipped in the bud that second time. <br /><br />I get that compliments are an issue for you and you are going to work on them. But I think it would also help to plan ahead so you feel in control of how much people talk about your body or your weight loss. So they talk about other things more.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-30221282044519000912011-04-21T14:12:42.333-05:002011-04-21T14:12:42.333-05:00Hmmm...I wonder how long the commute would be for ...Hmmm...I wonder how long the commute would be for me to come join you at Fancy Gym? That place sounds wonderful! <br /><br />Oh please please please do a Zumba class!!! If you like to dance, you will love it! I have fallen head over heels for it - it gets me sweaty, but honestly, I do it because it is the funnest hour of my whole week! (is that sad, that Zumba is the funnest hour of my whole week?)<br /><br />It's so great to hear that excitement in your voice again!! :)Jill A https://www.blogger.com/profile/18314858719315620032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-27861394246141914732011-04-21T13:41:41.124-05:002011-04-21T13:41:41.124-05:00That gym sounds wonderful. I'm happy to see yo...That gym sounds wonderful. I'm happy to see you doing something positive for yourself instead of trying to whip yourself into change. I get caught in that same trap (subject of my blog post today).<br /><br />I get exhausted just reading about all of the things you have to manage with work and your kids. I hope that you can find more time for yourself -- I bet that would make all the difference in the world when it comes to weight loss (and general sanity and health).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02700614225224691712noreply@blogger.com