tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post1912069259236351928..comments2023-10-17T03:21:37.194-05:00Comments on Life of L: Not great. Same old story!Laura Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07916626845812229646noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-89410180617887513842010-08-25T05:08:55.967-05:002010-08-25T05:08:55.967-05:00it has been another full week since you posted, an...it has been another full week since you posted, and I have been wondering about you. . .Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-27231386815718568442010-08-19T09:08:45.879-05:002010-08-19T09:08:45.879-05:00Oh Honey, I am so sorry. I really wouldn't wor...Oh Honey, I am so sorry. I really wouldn't worry about losing any more weight right now. Maintenance is a good thing - just go with that for now. <br /><br />When my grandma had Alzheimer's we held our breath for 10 years waiting for her to pass. I grieved that whole time, and when she did finally pass I think we all breathed a long sad sigh of relief. It's so hard to lose someone slowly, and when they aren't all sweetness and light to you, it makes it that much harder. Your sister is so right - he's trying to do whatever it takes to get people there and stay there, even if his tactics aren't the best. <br /><br />And this is sort of off topic, but this:<br />"For now, things are too messy. Joy is fleeting. My dad's the one with ALS, but the rest of us live with a cancer of pain and guilt and sorrow and fear that's taken deep roots over the past year. And it's not taking our lives, but it's draining the life out of us nonetheless." ...is a beautiful piece of writing. Really. <br /><br />((((hugs))) Love you Sister!!Jill A https://www.blogger.com/profile/18314858719315620032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-59801098603143793412010-08-19T08:51:11.298-05:002010-08-19T08:51:11.298-05:00I'm sorry things are so difficult now. 12 is ...I'm sorry things are so difficult now. 12 is not bad (I'd love to be solidly in the 12 column now!), but Vickie is right. Hold the line. After your Dad dies, you'll be able to re-start and 12 isn't a bad place to start from. Hugs.Tishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039903741028922963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-50501996567366405732010-08-19T05:54:09.139-05:002010-08-19T05:54:09.139-05:00Thoughts are with you, Laura. This too shall pass...Thoughts are with you, Laura. This too shall pass . . . .LMIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16194634431878605447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-45190694820307214172010-08-19T05:25:19.782-05:002010-08-19T05:25:19.782-05:00It is definitely grief, this is what happens in fa...It is definitely grief, this is what happens in families when the loss comes very slowly. And you have all the years of your (difficult at best) relationship with him that are dangling out there too. <br /><br />As they age, they revert back to toddler ways. And you have had two toddlers at your house and know about immaturity. So the next time you are back there, you will be better prepared to deal with him.<br /><br />Whatever level you are with weight, at least hold there. You do not want to be writing a post in a few months wishing you could get this weight, that does not please you, back as you go even higher. <br /><br />Even if things are tough, you can still make good changes, slowly, so you feel more positive.Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27032973.post-27342976436808976242010-08-18T22:22:03.135-05:002010-08-18T22:22:03.135-05:00Laura....i'm not remembering what city your in...Laura....i'm not remembering what city your in but is there the possibility you could get a couple of sessions of counseling? Maybe even grief counseling. You are grieving over the loss of your dad. I know he's still alive, but it's not how it should and you know it won't last. We did that with my dad. We knew it was a matter of time, and the months of his Cancer battle kept the HEAVY weight on our shoulders the whole time. Please don't be afraid to ask for help!Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10319705485471128965noreply@blogger.com